Monday, May 30, 2011

Some Gave All...

Happy Memorial Day! It is amazingly windy today, I hope the weather is wonderful where you are. So many people take today to get together with family and friends and grill out! It is after all a day off work. I, on the other hand, have every day "off", or maybe more appropriately, I never get a day off. I guess it's all in the perspective of how you view a stay at home mother. I spent the day playing with the kids, enjoying every minute, however in the back of my head I was cursing the Dr, library and diaper service for not being there today when I needed to call (I'm one of those "I have to address issues immediately or they pile up on the back burner" type people). Part of the day I spent attempting to do homework and fielding phone calls for organizational components of a massive healing energy operation we have going on for a friend of mine. And the last part of the day was spent at my sisters house for an impromptu taco night. Let's just say there was no rest for me this Memorial Day, and I'm fine with that.

My husband has been in the military for ten years now. We are on his second deployment and I miss him greatly. He did not get the day off either, nor did any of the thousands of troops overseas defending our freedoms. It is because of his sacrifice I was given the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. Because of his sacrifice I am able to take a year and earn my Masters degree. It is because of his sacrifice that I love him more and more every day. For him to give up the freedom of days off, the freedom to be with his family daily, the freedom to grill in his backyard with family and friends; he has given all of this up for his country and all of the people in it. My husband does an amazing job and I love him beyond words. This Memorial Day I celebrated the many freedoms I have that my husband made possible. Not just my husband, but every soldier out there past and present.

Thank you for your service. It is greatly appreciated!
~Ava

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Healing With Prayer Shawls

Tonight I will be joining efforts with a friend of mine to create prayer shawls for a mutual friend of ours who has been diagnosed with cancer. We will be creating two beautiful shawls from the book The Prayer Shawl Ministry: Reaching Those in Need which tells the story of the Prayer Shawl Ministry from Grace Presbyterian Church in Arkansas.

There are a few things that I like to do when I create shawls and blankets for others.

1. I always say a prayer before I begin. This is sometimes done with a lit candle, sometimes it is not, depends on the situation, time, etc.

2. I cannot work on the shawl if I feel any negativity at all. While working on it is peaceful and puts me in a better mood, I do not want to risk putting any of that negativity into the work. Therefore, a positive demeanor is essential.

3. I like to meditate on the purpose of the shawl and who it is for, sometimes doing a chant quietly to myself while creating.

4. Colors are important in the creation process. I try to match a color that is right for the individual and the purpose.

Those are the main points I follow. It is important for me to focus on the person who will receive the shawl and put as many positive energies into the shawl as possible. I look forward to working on the shawls tonight. I am hopeful that we are able to create them quickly so they may be used as soon as possible.

Brightest Blessings!
~Ava

Altruism Journal: Babysitting For Free

The other day I watched a very hyper, energetic little boy for a high school classmate of mine that I haven't seen in over a decade. She had a need, I had the means to meet that need...why wouldn't I watch him for her. Sure he needs a lot of attention, but what little three year old doesn't :) I was appalled when I heard he had been kicked out of his preschool a few weeks ago due to getting too many "write ups" or whatever term they use, and this baffled me. He's three, I understand the need to protect other children, but this kid is three and pretty dang well behaved from what I discovered while watching him. I have lost my faith in many of the organized day care's around here, having had a poor experience myself, I now advocate for in home nannies. We had a wonderful service that 99% of the time had a wonderful nanny come to our home to give our girls one on one attention, and this attention is showing through their abilities, manners and so many more developmental ways (the bad nanny experience was that the specific nanny didn't show up at all for a very poor reason, and was immediately terminated from the service due to this incident). I have shared this information with this old classmate, and I know it's pricey, but I hope she is able to take advantage of it. If not, I hope that she is able to find a suitable day care that is willing to provide the attention her little one needs. Again I emphasize, I don't know what happened at this day care, but I am amazed that such a great kid could be kicked out. I'm willing to watch him again if she needs it, it sounds like he had fun while he was here.

The True Strength of a Circle

These days I really find great symbolism in shapes. While a circle may not be the most architecturally strong (it comes close, but the triangle is the strongest), in the spiritual world it holds to be the strongest for me. I could write about the symbol of my wedding band, the circle of life, the wheel of the year; while these are extremely important symbols in my life, it is the image of a circle of people that has inspired me to write on this topic. Two very meaningful situations has come up in the past week for me, and those are the stories I would like to tell you about today.

When I place these situations in a visual form, I see two concentric circles. Depending on the emotions involved, the circles may be spinning clockwise, counterclockwise or one of each. The inner circle is the one that is closest to me in proximity of these two stories, and that is my spiritual circle. Not too long ago, depression took over my life. So many things going wrong (from my depressed perspective), post-partum depression, and it all was getting worse and worse over the past 3 years. Finally I couldn't take the stress of the emotions any more and I had to remove myself from positions of leadership, this included my leadership role of my healing circle. It was not fair to me to allow the stress of leading and organizing bring me down any further, and it was not fair to the members to have me leading in a very poor state of mind. It was best for us all for me to step back until I was in a better place. This, of course, did not mean I was stepping away for good, nor that I was rejecting any friendships I had made. I was not, and thankfully my close friends stayed close. Fast forward six months and I am doing much, much better, and this couldn't have come soon enough. A close friend whom I distanced myself from due to not being able to handle the conflict we found ourselves in has been diagnosed with cancer. This friend is also the the full owner of that healing circle I once co-owned with her. The circle has been quiet, with friends keeping up with each other but no activity. This ended as soon as news reached me that she was in need of prayer, support and energy. I sent out a message to all of the members who were active at the time I stepped down from the group to let them know I would be hosting a healing circle. I was sure I would get response of prayers, but the response I received from people saying they would attend and help organize some healing projects was tremendous. This is a true spiritual circle. It may become dormant, but no matter the conflict or friendship status, surrounding a friend in need with full force, no matter what, that is the definition of a healing circle.

I described the concentric circles before. That was the circle that was closest to the center, and a few weeks ago I would have told you it was moving counterclockwise. That motion came to a screeching halt and is now full force clockwise being as productive as ever. Our first meeting for shared energies (in the same room) will be scheduled for next Saturday night at 8:30p CST for anyone who wants to join. If you are interested in joining in on distance shared energies, another member quickly scheduled a 9pm CST daily prayer timeframe for her. Please join us in lighting a candle, meditating or praying for our dear friend, that the cancer is healed and her spirit stays high during this difficult time.

Now for that outer circle, the group of people who aren't quite so close to me in proximity, many whom I've never met, but they are touching my life just the same. This circle, from my perspective, moves between counterclockwise and clockwise a bit more sporadically. It is mainly determined by the media articles and Facebook threads I read. This is the circle of support from other Pagans when religious tolerance toward Paganism is not being practiced. The story starts on Facebook with my curiosity getting the best of me. A suggest page came up to me, and I clicked on it. From that day on my life has been touched. I want to send a thank you to Confessions of a Pagan Soccer Mom. Mr's B, it was your Facebook page that inspired this portion of my post here. Mr's B, has great information on her blog, and I was really getting inspired to explore more into nature and my own personal beliefs. One day recently she announced that her blog was selected for the Top 25 Faith blogs on Circle of Mom's, and here is where the magic really starts. In this contest different blogs from any faith are nominated as one of the top 25 faith blogs by moms. Anyone can go in and vote for the blog, or blogs, they find to be the most deserving of this online status. Mrs. B was nominated as well as several blogs by people of many faiths. I didn't go on to vote until I read that there were many people from other faiths being negative about the presence of Pagan blogs in the contest, stating they did not feel they were following a legitimate faith and did not want to be rated side by side. This really started when Mrs B's blog was gaining ground in the contest. The reason I started voting wasn't as a camaraderie of support for the Pagan blogs, however many in the Pagan community did go show their support this way. I started voting after I read a snark comment by one of the other faith blogs, which soon after was met with a flood of comments by both Pagan and other faiths. At this time the blog author posted an apology acknowledging the true meaning of their faith and wished Mrs B luck. At the point where I seen that change in demeanor, that is where I knew this contest was making a difference. This is the point where I found the counterclockwise circle changing directions and even my disappointment was met with hope. I started voting, not just for Pagan blogs, but for blogs of any faith that holds a strong message of faith, true faith and love. Soon after, Mr's B posted another link to a wonderful blog post by Julie, addressing her change of heart for Paganism. While she admits she does not have to agree with Paganism, her faith tells her to love thy neighbor, no matter what, and this is what she has done. Her blog post was flooded with loving comments from people of different faiths, but specifically many Pagans. I took the time to send a personal email thanking her for wonderful words, and received an even greater message back. From here I believe I have made a new friend. Because of her words I hope that she is touching the hearts and minds of many who are uneducated about the true meaning of Paganism. This is an amazing circle, growing everyday, hopefully to include peace and everyone in the world. Thanks to Mr's B, Circle of Moms and Julie, I feel my outer circle is spinning just as fast and smooth as my inner circle.

I am feeling pretty good right now. I still have fears and worry in my mind, but I have love, support and strength in my heart. Thanks to my friends, family and strangers (who won't be strangers for long) who touch my life.

Brightest Blessings,
Ava

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Exploring Agnosticism

I've heard the term Agnostic a few times lately and I'll admit, I didn't know much about what people meant when they claim this viewpoint on religion, so I did a little reading. The basic gist of Agnostic is that deity is unknowable, therefore there is no belief of or against deity. Currently I'm in the process of exploring my own personal beliefs so I took some time to contemplate if I fit into this category of beliefs. Quickly I determined I do not. I have great respect for this viewpoint as it makes a lot of sense to me. Especially since I hold a lot of weight on academics and logic. However, I also have a strong spiritual and emotional side. While I do believe deity is unknowable in a scientific measuring system, I don't want to remove personal measuring. One view I picked up from Universal Eclectic Wicca, is the idea of UPG, unverified personal gnosis. This is the idea that we can all have our own personal experiences with the divine which make them true to us, but not anyone else. If I receive a message through meditation or in nature, and it really speaks to me, giving me inspiration or altering the beliefs I currently hold, this is UPG. It doesn't affect anyone but me, however it is extremely meaningful and true for myself. Because I believe in UPG and the ability for the divine to speak to me through the emotional and spiritual self, I know there is deity, it may not be in any form describable by human means, but the divine is there and the divine speaks to me. I am inspired by the messages I receive, both big and small. Therefore, I am not agnostic.

On a side note. For all you philosophers out there, I know this post opens up a lot of questions. There are always a lot of questions when religious views and proof of deity come up. However, one question I might do a bit of thinking and philosophical research on is where I bring up the physical, spiritual and emotional self. Some people might even say there is an intellectual self. Can there really be more than one "self." Isn't this all one big make up of one person? Should a person be separated into more than one self? Does that take away a person's identity? Is it nonsense to talk in this way? Dang philosophy, so many questions and so many answers. This should be a fun area to explore sometime. I really hope I have time to come back to it!

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Melancholy

Well, today marks the first day of a new 7 month journey. It started out pretty flat; less emotional that I had expected, and currently has me in a state of melancholy. I dropped off my husband at the airport today and won't see him until sometime around Thanksgiving again.

Depression has many emotions, really I find it is the normal emotions amplified, at least that's how I feel with it. However, today is a very flat emotion. I find tears running down my face on occasion, but I don't have a lot of strong emotions behind them. I'm not frustrated, I feel calm, but I don't feel happy. I'm in a state of contemplation and meditation, which is probably something I need.

I am looking at the many things I have going on for myself, and thinking about how to stay busy in the least stressful way. My margin of error is very small on either side of the stress variable, meaning I get stressed if I'm too busy, and I get stressed if I'm not busy enough. When the margin is small, I have little room for error and usually I find myself hitting one stressful side and overcompensating and throwing myself into the other realm. I really need to utilize the schedule I was originally going to set up for myself a few months back, maybe now a detailed schedule would help me out a bit more.

I'll also be trying to get more involved in some local, positive, healthy lifestyle groups to see if that helps. I find I'm lacking a positive support system (I do have some awesome people taking care of me, you guys are my positives!). I hope getting more involved with this group will help keep my motivation up for losing weight, and get me some additional support and relaxation I need.

It's been a great two weeks having my husband home. Now I'm just going to sit and relax for the day. I don't have anything planned other than homework, so I'm not going to let this day get to me. I'll just keep moving and get some things done, that should help quite a bit.

Blessings on a new beginning,
Ava

Monday, May 2, 2011

Joy and Death

Last night America surprisingly received the news that Osama Bin Laden was dead. This news met me with mixed emotions. Here I was happy that so many people are finally receiving some sort of closure for the horrible actions he masterminded (although there is some arguments suggesting he was not behind the terrorist attacks on 9/11). However, I cannot help but reflect on my own personal morals. Is death by another's hand ever really moral? Even considering the horrendous acts committed by his direction? This is in regard to official violence, which refers to the acceptance by society on violence directed by authority which is stated to have a benefit to society. Am I for or against this type of violence? It's hard to say, there are so many angles, it is not a clear cut dilemma. I do not like conflict, but I recognize it exists and I know it has to be addressed. I also know that we need to defend ourselves from the uncontrollable action of others, both personally and as a society.

One thing I do feel is that celebration upon a death is not right. I acknowledge the significance of the death of Osama Bin Laden, and I have announced it publicly, with a slight corner of my mouth turned up. However, along with my announcement I also directed to another important point, the war is not over. This statement means a lot of things to different people. It means there is still war. There is still fighting. There is still death. It also can mean that we are one step closer to the end, and also, that step is bringing closure and "justice" to many other people who lost their lives or lost loved ones in the attack.

Many other people are celebrating. They are adding an element of joy and celebration to this death that bothers me. People are glorifying this death, and treating it as a war trophy, which it is not. It is not a trophy for a person to pull a trigger and willingly kill another, no matter which side of the fight they are on. It may be considered a necessary action, which I do not deny, however that person may have emotional stressors about this for the rest of their life. Not to mention all of the troops who have been emotionally and physically scarred through the last ten years of fighting. This death is not one to be celebrated. It was necessary and it is done. It is time to acknowledge the significance and move on to healing our loved ones and continue to protect ourselves, while moving on to the next defense strategy.

With mixed emotions, I wish blessings on all those affected by war...that would be every person living and dead. Bright blessings on a hope for a peaceful future, may our actions have the results we are working so strongly and courageously for, with few ill effects.

Ava

Les Miserables

My husband and I went to see Les Miserables the other night. It is an amazing show, and I still have the book by Victor Hugo on my shelf quietly calling to me to read; if only I could find the time. We were running late for the show, and of course it put me in one of my own miserable moods. I spent the money on a show, and the seats weren't where I thought they were, now we're running late and all of these negative things were all my fault. Miserable, miserable, miserable! Yet, here I was spending time with my husband and having the chance to go to a show I absolutely love, with music I love, in a gorgeous theater...yet all I could think about was how miserable I was. Depression does magical things, just not magical in the direction I want. (That would be an important note about magic, it is neither good nor bad, but it does reflect the energy you put into it).

At the show I was very much in tune with my miserable point of view, and I think this sort of helped. I really wanted to follow the story line, and I was also very focused on the stories of the characters and what made them miserable. The story shows how some people life seems to start miserable and ends much better, how some can start off as happy an end up miserable, and there are those who spend their whole life miserable because they are hiding from life and those who are chasing things that take over their life making them miserable. Compared to the stories of the characters, my life is not near as miserable as those in the story, and actually I am living the American Dream, that so many people came to this country to achieve. I have a family who truly loves me, we have "enough" money (and really money doesn't equate to happiness), and I have more education than anyone could really ask for, really it's just sprinkles on the sundae.

Watching Les Miserables did help put my life into perspective, and I hope I can start looking on the brighter side of life.

Blessings,
Ava